18.2.04

LET'S "JUST" BE FRIENDS. Who hasn't heard this, offered as a sort of consolation prize? Andrew Sullivan and Milt Rosenberg link to this Economist science report on recent research that suggests friendship is harder work than what people describe as love, let alone as lust. Key observation:
Wonderful though it is, romantic love is unstable—not a good basis for child-rearing. But the final stage of love, long-term attachment, allows parents to co-operate in raising children. This state, says Dr Fisher, is characterised by feelings of calm, security, social comfort and emotional union.
This research might provide rigorous validation of an intuition my parents had years ago. They had a straightforward understanding of the outcome when people married individuals they didn't know as friends. Tammy Wynette spells out that outcome for you.

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